Atasi Masalah Bosan di Pejabat...

Kita semua pernah mengalami rasa bosan di pejabat. Ia bukan bermakna bosan kerana tiada kerja, tetapi lebih kepada rasa jemu bergelumang dengan perkara yang sama setiap hari. Ada hari-hari yang kita berasa masa sangat lambat berjalan. Banyak kajian menunjukkan bahawa kebosanan di pejabat boleh menyebabkan pekerja menjadi kurang waras, walaupun mereka adalah pekerja yang cemerlang. Mereka terdorong untuk meletakkan jawatan, mensabotaj rakan sekerja, mengabaikan kerja-kerja berkumpulan dan sengaja menggagalkan sesuatu tugasan. Ini adalah sangat serius.

“Apabila pekerja berasa bosan, mereka akan terdorong untuk menarik diri.” Kata Richard Chaifetz, seorang pakar psikologi dan CEO ComPsych, sebuah syarikat yang memberi bantuan konsultansi kepada para pekerja. “Risikonya boleh menjadi terlampau – kurang produktiviti, kesalahan yang sangat signifikan dan pelbagai insiden lagi.” Mari kita lihat bagaimana hendak memberi kesegaran pada diri dan bagaimana hendak menjadikan hari-hari anda lebih menarik di pejabat.

1.    Mulakan hari dengan lebih bersemangat

Respon emosi kita terhadap aktiviti seharian banyak terpengaruh dengan cara kita memulakan hari-hari kita. Sambil bersiap ke tempat kerja atau dalam perjalanan, kita boleh mendengar siaran radio-radio yang segar, kecoh dan bermotivasi. Contohnya untuk mereka yang beragama Islam, mulakan hari anda dengan solat Subuh yang akan menyegarkan permulaan hari. Solat adalah satu kerehatan dan mengecas semula segala emosi dan kepenatan fizikal.

Tidur awal juga dapat membantu permulaan hari yang baik. Jika anda mudah berasa penat, apa kata anda amalkan makanan kesihatan yang dapat menambah nutrisi untuk saraf. Berfikir secara positif dan berdoa kepada Tuhan supaya diberi kemudahan dalam urusan seharian. Ini kerana doa memberi pengharapan pada diri kita, seperti kita sedia maklum, harapan yang kita letak akan memberi satu semangat baru untuk meneruskan kehidupan.

2.    Jadikan stesen kerja anda lebih produktif

Percaya atau tidak, stesen kerja anda juga memainkan peranan penting terhadap emosi anda. Perubahan seperti meletakkan pokok kecil atau dekorasi ringkas akan membuatkan anda rasa lebih selesa. Benda-benda hidup seperti pokok dan mini akuarium dapat membantu memberi tenaga baru. Jangan risau, banyak contoh-contoh haiwan dan tumbuhan yang ‘mesra stesen kerja’ yang boleh anda google di Internet.

Aksesori seperti magnet bar juga boleh diletakkan, biasanya berunsurkan kata-kata motivasi atau tempat-tempat yang dilawati. Aksesori sebegini akan menambah keceriaan di stesen kerja anda. Banyak lagi yang boleh dipelbagaikan bagi menghidupkan stesen kerja anda, tetapi jangan sampai terlalu penuh hingga kelihatan semak pula ya!

3.    Atasi kepenatan

Kadangkala, bukan kerja harian yang menyebabkan kita berasa bosan tetapi lebih kepada rasa penat yang dialami hingga menyebabkan ketiadaan tenaga dan semangat untuk bekerja. Cara terbaik adalah berhenti seketika, tarik nafas sedalamnya kemudian lakukan beberapa gerakan ringkas yang akan melancarkan semula aliran darah dalam badan. Anda juga boleh berhenti untuk kudapan ringkas seperti bijirin sarapan atau biskut. Secawan kopi juga pasti membantu.

Selain itu, bekerja sambil berdiri buat sebentar juga membantu untuk mengecas semula tenaga anda. Sesuatu yang dipanggil ‘power nap’ yakni tidur sebentar dalam tempoh masa 5 minit bagi memberi kesegaran pada tubuh dan minda juga boleh membantu mengatasi kepenatan. Ingat, jangan sampai ditangkap tidur di hadapan bos atau terlebih tidur pula!

4.    Jadikan mesyuarat anda sesuatu yang berbaloi

Mesyuarat biasanya adalah bahagian paling membosan dalam kerja harian di pejabat. Betul atau tidak? Separuh daripadanya telah membazir waktu anda pada kerja sebenar di tangan. Sediakan itinerari mesyuarat agar perjalanan mesyuarat lebih teratur. Sekiranya perlu, bincang dengan pengurus jika ada sebarang penambah baikan terhadap mesyuarat untuk menjadikan ia lebih produktif.

5.    Maju kehadapan dan terima tanggungjawab baru

Jika kerja harian anda kelihatan mudah dan suram, cuba koreksi pembaharuan yang boleh dilakukan dalam kerja harian itu. Beri inisiatif baru terhadap projek yang sedang dilakukan, ia bukan sahaja akan mengecas semangat anda, malah anda juga akan mendapat perhatian istimewa daripada pengurus atas usaha yang dilakukan. Selain itu mungkin anda boleh bertukar-tukar tugasan kecil dengan rakan sekerja, ini akan membuatkan hari anda lebih menarik dek kerana anda akan belajar dan cuba membuat perkara baru.

Pekerja mungkin akan mengalami kesan psikologi sementara akibat kebosanan di pejabat seperti tekanan, tidak gembira serta kurang yakin diri – dalam masa yang sama perasaan bosan di pejabat sebenarnya adalah nilai yang sangat mahal harganya buat seorang pekerja kerana beliau mungkin akan kehilangan bakat dan sumbangan penting dalam jangka masa yang lebih panjang, jika ia dibiarkan berterusan.

Pelbagai inisiatif boleh dilakukan oleh ketua anda, bagi membantu pekerja yang kepenatan emosinya, antaranya dengan perbincangan tentang perkara yang boleh diubah bagi membuatkan pekerja berasa lebih selesa dan kurang tertekan. Menjadi pengurus bukan sahaja melibatkan pengurusan tugasan, tetapi juga termasuk mengurus emosi pekerja bawahan, itulah yang menjadikan seseorang itu pengurus yang hebat!

Powerful Written Goals In 7 Easy Steps!

By Gene Donohue

The car is packed and you’re ready to go, your first ever cross-country trip. From the White Mountains of New Hampshire to the rolling hills of San Francisco, you’re going to see it all.

You put the car in gear and off you go. First stop, the Baseball Hall of Fame in Cooperstown, New York.

A little while into the trip you need to check the map because you’ve reached an intersection you’re not familiar with. You panic for a moment because you realize you’ve forgotten your map.

But you say the heck with it because you know where you’re going. You take a right, change the radio station and keep on going. Unfortunately, you never reach your destination.

We need to do more then simply scribble down some ideas on a piece of paper. Our goals need to be complete and focused, much like a road map, and that is the purpose behind the rest of this article.

If you follow the 7 steps outlined below you will be well on your way to becoming an expert in building the road maps to your goals.

1. Make sure the goal you are working for is something you really want, not just something that sounds good.

I remember when I started taking baseball umpiring more seriously. I began to set my sights on the NCAA Division 1 level. Why? I knew there was no way I could get onto the road to the major leagues, so the next best thing was the highest college level. Pretty cool, right. Wrong.

Sure, when I was talking to people about my umpiring goals it sounded pretty good, and many people were quite impressed. Fortunately I began to see through my own charade.

I have been involved in youth sports for a long time. I’ve coached, I’ve been the President of leagues, I’ve been a treasurer and I’m currently a District Commissioner for Cal Ripken Baseball. Youth sports is where I belong, it is where my heart belongs, not on some college diamond where the only thing at stake is a high draft spot.

When setting goals it is very important to remember that your goals must be consistent with your values.

2. A goal can not contradict any of your other goals.

For example, you can’t buy a $750,000 house if your income goal is only $50,000 per year. This is called non-integrated thinking and will sabotage all of the hard work you put into your goals. Non-integrated thinking can also hamper your everyday thoughts as well. We should continually strive to eliminate contradictory ideas from our thinking.

3. Develop goals in the 6 areas of life:

Family and Home

Financial and Career

Spiritual and Ethical

Physical and Health

Social and Cultural

Mental and Educational

Setting goals in each area of life will ensure a more balanced life as you begin to examine and change the fundamentals of everyday living. Setting goals in each area of life also helps in eliminating the non-integrated thinking we talked about in the 2nd step.

4. Write your goal in the positive instead of the negative.

Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind. Part of the reason why we write down and examine our goals is to create a set of instructions for our subconscious mind to carry out. Your subconscious mind is a very efficient tool, it can not determine right from wrong and it does not judge. It’s only function is to carry out its instructions. The more positive instructions you give it, the more positive results you will get.

Thinking positively in everyday life will also help in your growth as a human being. Don’t limit it to goal setting.

5. Write your goal out in complete detail.

Instead of writing “A new home,” write “A 4,000 square foot contemporary with 4 bedrooms and 3 baths and a view of the mountain on 20 acres of land."

Once again we are giving the subconscious mind a detailed set of instructions to work on. The more information you give it, the more clearer the final outcome becomes. The more precise the outcome, the more efficient the subconscious mind can become.

Can you close your eyes and visualize the home I described above? Walk around the house. Stand on the porch off the master bedroom and see the fog lifting off the mountain. Look down at the garden full of tomatoes, green beans and cucumbers. And off to the right is the other garden full of mums, carnations and roses. Can you see it? So can your subconscious mind.

6. By all means, make sure your goal is high enough.

Shoot for the moon, if you miss you’ll still be in the stars. Earlier I talked about my umpiring goals and how making it to the top level of college umpiring did not mix with my values. Some of you might be saying that I’m not setting my goals high enough. Not so. I still have very high goals for my umpiring career at the youth level. My ultimate goal is to be chosen to umpire a Babe Ruth World Series and to do so as a crew chief. If I never make it, everything I do to reach that goal will make me a better umpire and a better person. If I make it, but don’t go as a crew chief, then I am still among the top youth umpires in the nation. Shoot for the moon!

7. This is the most important, write down your goals.

Writing down your goals creates the road map to your success. Although just the act of writing them down can set the process in motion, it is also extremely important to review your goals frequently. Remember, the more focused you are on your goals the more likely you are to accomplish them.

Sometimes we realize we have to revise a goal as circumstances and other goals change, much like I did with my umpiring. If you need to change a goal do not consider it a failure, consider it a victory as you had the insight to realize something was different.

So your goals are written down.

Now what?

First of all, unless someone is critical to helping you achieve your goal(s), do not freely share your goals with others. The negative attitude from friends, family and neighbors can drag you down quickly. It’s very important that your self-talk (the thoughts in your head) are positive.

Reviewing your goals daily is a crucial part of your success and must become part of your routine. Each morning when you wake up read your list of goals that are written in the positive. Visualize the completed goal, see the new home, smell the leather seats in your new car, feel the cold hard cash in your hands. Then each night, right before you go to bed, repeat the process. This process will start both your subconscious and conscious mind on working towards the goal. This will also begin to replace any of the negative self-talk you may have and replace it with positive self-talk.

Every time you make a decision during the day, ask yourself this question, “Does it take me closer to, or further from my goal.” If the answer is “closer to,” then you’ve made the right decision. If the answer is “further from,” well, you know what to do.

If you follow this process everyday you will be on your way to achieving unlimited success in every aspect of your life.

Motivation Magic - 7 Days to Changing Your Life

In only seven days you will be motivated. You will have the will power and energy to not only reach for your dreams, but to grab on tightly and enjoy the ride. The Motivation Magic  system is simple and easy to implement, but can go a long way in helping you create your ideal life.

 

Begin the system on a Monday and wrap it up on Sunday. You can repeat as many times as you feel necessary, and I hope you feel it is necessary every week!

 

 

MONDAY - PLAN YOUR WEEK

Success always starts with a clear and specific plan. Most people wake up on Monday and have no idea what they will accomplish during the week, the month or even the entire year. This is why it's crowded at the bottom, and it's time for you to climb your way to the top.

 

What do you want to work on this week? What goals do you want to give attention to? What do you want to accomplish at work? Give each day a simple, yet specific plan of action. At the end of the week you will have progressed much farther than ever before, simply by knowing how you wanted to spend your most scarce resource, time.

 

 

TUESDAY - DREAMS

Dreams are important for many reasons. They give us something to look to, even when times are difficult. If you have a rough day at work, you can close your eyes and picture your dreams in your mind. You can rise above the short-term setbacks because you know you have long-term success to look forward to.

 

Not only do they help you deal with failure, but they also motivate you constantly. Even if you fall short of your ultimate goal for the time being, you will still advance forward.

 

Take some time after work to think about your dreams. This may be a totally new experience for you, and if so, enjoy yourself. Think big, and don't worry about how or if it will happen. Let the excitement of your dreams take over. Everyone needs to have a dream, and it's time that you create yours.

 

 

WEDNESDAY - 30 MINUTES TO SUCCESS

I am a huge fan of reading. I have witnessed first-hand how much of an impact reading can have in life. The more you learn, the more you want to learn. It's a wonderful cycle. As you understand more about the world around you, your own eagerness and motivation take over as you become curious and enthusiastic about really living your life.

 

Get up earlier in the morning, take a book to work with you for your lunch break, or read before you go to bed. Whatever your method, read! I cannot say enough about the importance of this tip. But you are reading this newsletter, so I'd say you are doing a great job so far!

 

 

THURSDAY - HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY

Human beings are great creators of excuses. If something doesn't get done, you'll hear ten reasons why it wasn't their fault. Instead of crippling yourself with excuses, be honest with yourself and begin to make real progress in your life.

 

If you aren't reaching your goals, or are living a life that you don't want to live, throw away your excuses and take full responsibility for where you are. It is the choices you make every day that decide where you end up. If you want a different life, make different decisions. Nothing can change until you take an honest look at your life and your dreams.

 

 

FRIDAY - HAVE SOME FUN!

While planning, working, and keeping persistent are important to getting what you want in life, you must not forget the importance of fun!

 

All work and no play is unhealthy and can steal the very motivation you have been trying to develop. Take some time to let go of worry and concern and just have fun.

 

Go to a movie, spend time with your kids or simply relax your mind and body. You'll come back to your work with a renewed energy and vitality that will keep you going strong for days to come.

 

 

SATURDAY - YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL!

While working on improvement, don't overlook what you have already achieved. It is easy to get wrapped up in tomorrow without realizing how well today is going. The successes you have experienced in the past will help to motivate you in the future.

 

Think back to a time when you achieved a goal, when you felt great about yourself. These times can serve as a springboard to your future goals and dreams. Reading the success stories from others is a great way to increase confidence and get motivated, but a better method is to think about your own victories.

 

 

SUNDAY - RELAX AND REFLECT

It's been a long and eventful week. Now that it's over, let's examine what you did well, and what needs improvement. Make a mental or written list of things that you felt good about. It could be a meeting you had with your employees, or an evening with the family. What did you do that made this a success? What can you learn from that?

 

Now think about situations that could have been handled differently. What would you change? How could you have approached the problem differently? What can you learn from your mistakes?

 

This quick and easy program to motivation can help you take control of your life. It can give you the energy and drive you need to live the life you have always wanted to live. Because the tips are easy to use, you will have no trouble implementing them into your pattern.

 

Wishing you the very best...

50 questions... To get to know each other!

These questions are from http://www.sparkpeople.com. You can copy them too so we can know I little more about you!
 
Have Fun!

1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE?
My Grandma

2. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED?
Good question....I've had a few close ones over the last few weeks...but I really can't remember!

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING?
Usually!

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT?
Turkey!!

5. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU?
I'd like to think so...

6. Do you have kids?
Nope

7. DO YOU USE SARCASM ALOT?
Oh my goodness.... all the time!!!!

8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS?
Yep

9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP?
Totally!!

10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL?
Multi Grain Cheerios

11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF?
Nope

12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG?
Sometimes more than others!

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM?
Bunny Tracks Ice Cream....soooo bad for me too!!! :)

14. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE?
Depends on the person

15. RED OR PINK?
Pink!!!

16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF?
My flab that doesn't want to go away!!! Grrrr!

17. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST?
Right now....one of my former best friends, we had a giant falling out and I am starting to miss him!!

18. WHAT IS THE PAUL MCKENNA TECHNIQUE THAT YOU NEED TO WORK ON THE MOST?
No idea who that even is!

19. WHAT COLOR SHOES ARE YOU WEARING?
I'm barefoot!!

20. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE?
Homemade Chicken Salad

21. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW?
Watching "I am Number Four"

22. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE?
Probably Pink!

23. FAVORITE SMELLS?
Guys cologne, freshly mowed grass, Cilantro!!!

24. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE?
My friend Tina

25. MOUNTAIN HIDEAWAY OR BEACH HOUSE?
Probably the mountains, since I go there all the time!

26. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH?
Football

27. HAIR COLOR?
Brown, with blonde and red tints

28. EYE COLOR?
Baby Blue

29. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS?
Nope

30. FAVORITE FOOD?
Cheese!

31. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS?
Probably Happy Endings...I don't do scary movies by myself!

32. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED?
I Am Number Four

33. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING?
Purple....it's becoming one of my new favorite colors to wear!

34. SUMMER OR WINTER?
I am starting to become more of a summer kinda girl...comes with the body! :)

35. HUGS OR KISSES?
Kisses...from the right person!

36. FAVORITE DESSERT?
Anything sweet!

37. STRENGTH TRAINING OR CARDIO?
Strength...but I don't do it enough!!

38. COMPUTER OR TELEVISION?
Computer! I'm addicted!

39. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW?
I'm not...I read lots of kids books though!

40. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD?
Don't have one...using the couch cushion as one!

42. FAVORITE SOUND?
Can't say that I have one...

43. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES?
Beatles. Across the Universe is one of my favorite musicals!

44. WHAT IS THE FARTHEST YOU HAVE BEEN FROM HOME?
Europe!! It was amazing!! Barcelona, Spain was my favorite!

45. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT?
My fingers are double jointed...it really grosses people out! haha!

46. WHERE WERE YOU BORN?
Boring old Nebraska...

47. WHERE ARE YOU LIVING NOW?
Boring old Nebraska...

48. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR HOUSE?
My apt is made from bricks...

49. WHAT COLOR IS YOUR CAR?
Red

50. DO YOU LIKE ANSWERING 50 QUESTIONS?
Yeah...that was fun! :)

10 Simple Ways to Wake Up With Self-Confidence

 

Note: This is a guest post by Davis Nguyen

BRAYNK! BRAYNK! BRAYNK! BRAYNK!

Your morning alarm just went off. What are you doing this morning?

Are you jumping out of bed ready to start your day or are you trying to squeeze in “5 more minutes” of sleep?

If you are like most people, you are still struggling to roll out of bed and inside your head, you’re thinking, “here we go again.”

Wouldn’t it be great if you could start every day full of energy and self-confidence?

You probably know people who seem to always be “on.” They are self-confident and wake up happy whether it’s to play golf on Sunday or to go to work on Wednesday.

Why is it some people seem to be bursting with energy in the morning while most of us can barely even wake up?

The reason we don’t just jump out of bed is because we very much prefer our sleep to anything else out there. Most of us view waking up and the morning routine as chore time. 

We have to dress the kids, pick our clothes, prepare the coffee, cook breakfast, commute to work, etc. It feels like bleary-eyed drudgery without much to look forward to.

Our mornings don’t remind us that we have a  life purpose, a compelling reason to begin our day with joy. To see the difference between beginning your morning with a purpose versus just getting up and mindlessly following your routine, think of the last time you were truly excited to wake up.

Why were you excited?

What were you doing?

Maybe you had plans to visit a close friend, you were working on an exciting project, or it was the day of your big presentation. You had your day planned out, and you had something to look forward to.

The good news is that anyone can begin the day with purpose and self-confidence.  It’s not a man or woman thing, or extrovert or introvert trait, or an age specific issue. It simply comes down to giving your morning purpose.

Here are 10 strategies you can begin tonight to make your tomorrow more purposeful and to add confidence and energy to your day.

1. Go to bed early

In our efforts to do more and more every day we have to cut something. Unfortunately, a lot of people choose to sacrifice sleep so they can answer that one last email or finish writing that one last check.

Sleep does a lot for your body. Besides reducing your risk for some cancers, relieving stress, and cutting weight, going to bed early makes you feel recharged in the morning and gives you more energy to jump out of bed feeling rested. That one email or bill payment can wait until the morning, because your body, mind, and well-being require a good night’s rest.

2. Wake up on time

When you go to be earlier, you’ll be able to wake up easier. And when you have more time in the morning, you don’t have to rush or feel pressured. You have time to eat mindfully, reflect on your day ahead, and spend time with your family. You begin your day in a state of calm confidence.

But if you are anything like me, it might not be that easy. As soon as my alarm went off, I hit snooze and crawled deeper into my covers and fell back asleep.

However, I found one technique that worked wonders for me. Before I go to bed, I  set my alarm and place it away from my nightstand and next to my door. This way, when the alarm goes off, I have to wake up, walk to the door, and turn it off.  Since I am near my door, I can tell myself to leave my room and not be seduced by my warm bed.

When you are trying to start your day off confidently, the worst thing you can do is go back to the bed. If you find a way to force yourself to get out of the bed and leave your bedroom, you’ll lessen the temptation to crawl back into your sheets.

3. Prepare for the day ahead

Take 10 minutes each morning (or before you go to bed) to plan your day and prepare for anything that is on your schedule. This will allow you to clear your mind, prepare for any important events or plans, and remove the unnecessary stress caused by those “Shoot! I forgot I had to do this” moments. You can confidently begin your day knowing you are on top of things.

4. Drink water

Second only to sleep (might even be the first), I make an effort to drink water in the morning to revitalize my body and refresh my mind. I incorporated drinking water in my morning routine so I can have a reason to leave my room when my alarm goes off. But beginning your day hydrated with make you feel better physically and will make you mentally alert.

5. Have something to look forward to 

When you have something to look forward to, you can’t wait to get started. It doesn’t have to be something massive, just enough to motivate you to get up on time and have a purpose in the morning.

My little routine is this: I get up and if I went to bed early and woke up on time, I reward myself with two mini-bagels with strawberry jam on top (I am addicted to these things!). On days when I don’t get up or I sleep late, I take don’t reward myself with my treat.

This might seem silly, but as long as I’m up and happy in the morning that’s all that matters to me. Remember that no one is judging you. Find something that feels like a reward or joyful activity — maybe sitting outside to drink your coffee or taking 10 minutes to read.

6. Do what you love

I won’t steal Barrie’s thunder on this since she is the master. There is no better way to begin the morning than to know the work you are doing is what lights you up and gives your day meaning and life purpose. If you don’t know what your life passion is, make it a priority to find out. Begin the process of uncovering your passion so that each morning, you wake up knowing your work will feel more like play.

7. Remember to Smile

Smile and you’ll just feel happier and more confident. It’s that simple. In fact, a number of research studies have shown the act of smiling, even if forced,  can actually produce feelings of happiness. When you wake up, look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Smile at your family and smile when you are driving to work. It might feel silly at first, but soon you’ll notice you’re smiling naturally because you’re happy.

8. Exercise

Along with sleep and drinking water, exercise is one of the most important activities for confidence and happiness. You don’t have go to the gym and lift weights for an hour. Anything that’s gets your body moving and endorphins engaged will make you feel more energized, happy, and confident.

The first time I ever stepped inside a gym was in 2012, and it transformed my life. I started with 30-minute workouts, and now I am up to 90 minutes.  I love every minute of it. If I can do it (I used to be 40 pounds overweight), you can do it too. Just start small — even a 5 minute jog outside your home is better than doing nothing.

9. Pick your clothes the night before

Instead of worrying about what you will wear in the morning, have your outfit picked out the night before. Choose something to wear that makes you feel good about how you look and how you present yourself to others. This will save you time and remove another chore from your morning routine.

10. Express gratitude

I thought this was silly (even more so than my bagel treat), but one of my professors challenged us one day to wake up, look in the mirror, and tell ourselves one thing we were grateful for.

It could be something as big as your internship or something as little as mint chocolate cookies. By counting your blessings and seeing anything that makes your life great, you’ll be ready to tackle the day with a positive outlook. What started with a silly assignment is now a part of my daily routine.

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With just a few simple shifts in your routine, you can dramatically change the way you begin your day. When you wake up feeling calm, rested, energized, and positive, your self-confidence will soar. You will feel in control of your outlook, your happiness, and your life.

What do you do to wake up each morning confidently?  Please comment below. I’d love to hear your ideas and suggestion.

Human Relation Principles

Nine ways to make people Like You!

1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Smile.
6. Remember that a man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
7. Be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves.
8. Talk in terms of the other mans interest.
9. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

 
Twelve ways to make people think in your way
 
1. Show respect for the others persons opinions. Never tell a man he is wrong.
2. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
3. If you are wrong admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Gets the other person saying Yes, yes immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

 
Nine ways to bring around people without giving offence
 
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to peoples mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
6. Let the other man save his face.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.


Four ways to Analys worry

1. Get all the facts.
2. Weigh all the fats-then come to a decision.
3. Once a decision is rached, act.
4. Write the answers of the following questions.
     a) What is the problem?
     b) What are the causes of the problem?
     c) What are the possible solutions?



Four ways to Overcome worry
 
1. Live in day-tight compartments.
2. Face the trouble the following ways.
      a) Ask yourself what is the worst that can possibly happen?
      b) Prepare mentally to accept the worst.
      c) Try to improve on the worst.
3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.
4. Apply the law of averages in your favor.


Six ways to break the worry habit

1. Keep busy.
2. Don’t fuss about trifles.
3. Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries.
4. Co-operate with the inevitable.
5. Decide just how much anxiety a thing
6. Don’t worry about the past.


Seven  ways to Peace and Happiness
 
1. Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health, hope and prayer.
2. Never try to get even with your enemies.
3. Expect ingratitude.
4. Count your blessings-not your troubles.
5. Do not imitate others.
6. Try to profit from your losses.
7. Create happiness for others.

 
Seven ways to face criticism and grow strong

1. Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.
2. Do the very best you can.
3. Analyse your own mistakes and criticize yourself.
4. Learn to relax at your work.
5. Apply the following four good working habits.
     a) Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
     b) Do things in order of their importance.
     c) When you have a problem, solve it then and there if you have the necessary facts to make a decision.
     d) Learn to organize, deputize and supervise.
6. Put enthusiasm into your work.
7. Don’t worry about insomnia.

Proton Hari Raya TVC 2013

 

The bus driver found something inside the Proton car. 

It changed his life forever.

New Hari Raya TVC from Proton. Will the bus driver be impressed by Proton in the end?

 Proton Hari Raya TVC 2013 

Watch how Proton is using technology to make Hari Raya even more meaningful for these kids.  

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Jahit - Petronas short film for Raya (2013)

A video that will make you rethink your life.

Satu lagi filem sempena Raya 2013 dari Petronas. Tak mengecewakan!

A heartwarming story with a simple message that with hard work and diligence, good things will come.

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A Little 3-Step Guide To Overcoming Fear

“Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed.” ~Michael Pritchard

For too much of my life, fear held me back.
Fear of abandonment.
Fear of looking bad.
Fear of taking risks.
Fear that I might get hurt.
Fear that things would turn out badly.
Fear that people would see (and dislike) the “real” me.

Most of the time my fear was an invisible fence that zapped me when I got too close to the edge of my comfort zone. But there were times when fear was an ever-present, palpable blanket that shrouded me with worry and anxiety.

My fallback position during fearful times was to “think my way” out of fear. I figured if I worried about the thing I feared enough, I could control it. If I kept my mind focused on it, and if I created a good enough plan for self-preservation, I could keep all bad outcomes at bay.

That was a really bad strategy.

It was a bad strategy for a variety of reasons.

First, the more I focused on my fears and worked on creating tactics to protect myself, the bigger the fears grew. As I allowed my brain to soak in the poison of my fears, my fear-based thinking became a habit. I had “taught” my brain to loop through my fears and possible bad outcomes constantly, like a gerbil on a wheel. It was exhausting.

Also, believing I could “out-think” my fears and control outcomes was an exercise in futility. So many of my fears centered on unpredictable, uncontrollable variables (trying to make people like me, keeping bad things from happening, etc.), that it was impossible to cover all of my bases and keep all unpleasantness contained. It was like trying to manage a flea circus.

And further, I was operating under the misguided assumption that the outcomes I feared would be really terrible, traumatic, life-altering things. I let my mind wander to the worst possible scenarios and envisioned dire consequences. When in reality, there was very little (and sometimes no) chance of the bad thing happening at all. Or if it did happen, the fallout and my ability to cope with it, was far less difficult than I imagined. Most of the time, everything turned out OK, in spite of my fear and worry.

I was operating under the misguided assumption that the outcomes I feared would be really terrible, traumatic, life-altering things.

Does any of this sound vaguely familiar to you?

In my own defense (lest I sound like a wacked-out nut case), I did have some early life events (as most of us do) that added to my propensity for fear-based thinking. And on the scale of emotional sensitivity, I’m probably more hyper-vigilant and sensitive than the average person.

If you had known me during my years of fear-based thinking, you might not have suspected it of me, as I became very skilled at designing my life to feel and look safe and comfortable.

But to be honest, I didn’t have nearly as much fun, joy, lightness, and peace as I could have had — should have had — if I’d learned earlier what I know now.

I try not to dwell in the past, but sometimes I can’t help but look back on my younger adult years and think, “Dang, it could have been so much more fun.”

So what changed for me? I wish I could say I read a great blog post that enlightened me to my fearful ways and offered me the insights and techniques for overcoming my fears and living passionately.

But what really happened was a mid-life crash and burn.

I turned 50 and was slammed with the truth that my life was more than half over, and I no longer could live it as a compromised person. My children grew older, started leaving home, and no longer needed me as a full-time caregiver. My 20-year marriage unraveled. My career in public relations was no longer fulfilling or in any way enjoyable. I lost a close friendship. My last close parent-figure (an aunt) died.

Every part of my life that seemed safe and real to me was suddenly turned upside down. The “bad thing” that I feared and tried to protect myself from had finally happened.

Now I’m not going to tell you that all of this wasn’t excruciatingly painful. It was. It hurt like a son-of-a-bitch. And there were certainly days I wanted to crawl back to the safety of my old life.

But . . . going through this was like lancing a boil (yucky analogy but spot on). Once the pain lessened, I was free. I was free of fear. I was free to be myself.

• I could see as clear as the nose on my face that all of my fearful thinking was a huge waste of time and energy.

• I could see that good and bad things are going to happen in life regardless of my efforts to control them.

• I could see that the only thing I can control is how I choose to think and what I choose to believe about any situation or person.

• I could see that the vast majority of things we fear are illusions.

• I could see that the only important thing to focus on in life is this moment, right now.

I’m not completely free of fear. It’s a work in progress. I fear getting older. I fear illness and death. I fear some of the existential questions that float around in my psyche. But now I have the tools and knowledge to cope with those fears when they arise.

I had to go through a bit of a shit storm to garner those tools and learn ways to overcome my fears. I sure hope you don’t have to go through a shit storm too. Maybe you already have. Maybe you are facing one now. Hang on. Something good awaits you on the other side.

In case you need a few tools to help you along the way, here’s my little 3-step guide to overcoming fear.

1. Get off the gerbil wheel.

The more you think about something, the more habitual the thinking becomes. I’m not just making this up. Read about the science of neuroplasticity. Your brain creates new neural pathways to reinforce repetitive thoughts and actions. If you are trapped in worry or fear-based thinking, you absolutely must get off of that gerbil wheel.

There are a variety of techniques for interrupting the fear and worry-thinking cycle. You can read about them in this post about breaking the chronic worry cycle and this one on 3 techniques for releasing worry and anxiety.

 

Just having the awareness that you are over-thinking your fears is enough to interrupt the cycle. Thinking about your fears does NOT give you more control over them. It only further entrenches you in fear.

2. Accept that you have no control.

You can worry and fear all the live-long day, but you have no control over most situations in life. Sure, you can make wise choices, practice healthy living, wear a seat-belt, and avoid dangerous parts of town. Using common sense and sound judgment does help keep some life problems from tracking you down. But beyond that, life unfolds as it will unfold. You can’t control what people think of you. You can’t prevent accidents from happening. You can’t anticipate every possible outcome and prepare for it.

So the best you can do is manage what is reasonable to manage and let go. Just fall back and trust that the universe will catch you. Enjoy the relief of not worrying about possible consequences and instead focus on the joy of right now. Actively seek the beauty of the present moment and express gratitude for all of the good things in your life.

3. Realize your fears are faulty

If you think about bad outcomes or situations you feared in the past, I bet the vast majority of them never came to pass. Or if they did happen, they weren’t nearly as bad as you feared they would be. Or if you have experienced something really difficult or traumatic, your ability to cope with it and survive was far stronger and more manageable than you feared.

Short of downright tragedies and horrendous events (which happen rarely), we aren’t handed too much in life that we can’t deal with. And when bad things do happen, we can cope with them far better with a practiced positive outlook than with entrenched fear-based thinking. When you train your brain to think positively and expect good outcomes, you have more energy and resiliency to handle difficulties.

 

Sources:Barrie Davenport on July 10, 2013

8 Life Lessons Taught by Candy Crush

Candy Crush is the sweetest addiction to hit our smartphones this year, by far. It's a huge time sink and despite being immensely frustrating in the later levels, people just can't stop playing.

In many ways, Candy Crush is just like real life, with 8 lessons we can use four our day-to-day lives.

8. Life is not always fair. Sometimes you get lucky with a good board, sometimes you don't. Deal with it.

7. Persistence is the key to success. If you persist long enough, one of these days you are bound to get it right somehow. Or get lucky. Or both.

6. Ask friends for help when you need it. You'll be surprised at how many are able and willing.

5. Help friends as much as you can. Life is all about give and take after all.

4. There will not always be friends who can help you out. It happens. Suck it up and wait.

3. You won't always understand what's going on. That's fine, you're not expected to.

2. Chocolate is evil. It will mess things up.

1. Life is equal parts fun and frustrating. It is full of challenges every step of the way, yet it can also be sweet and colorful!